Your Ego is not Your Amigo!

“Ego is an imposter, imposing on the real you, making you think you are something that you’re not.” – Oprah

On the bathroom walls of Forward-Fold where I teach and film my online classes, reads: “Your ego is not your amigo.”  

I have no idea what student wrote this on the wall as when the studio opened, the owner Matt, allowed peeps to write whatever they wanted.  I often use this phrase in class and life.  The ego is an imposter and a real son-of- a-bitch.  It will haunt us forever so we better teach it its place and build a better relationship with it.  

 

There’s no winning with the ego.  No escaping it.  So, start by noticing how much, how often, and in what areas the ego is running your life.  I spend most of my time teaching and observing other people’s patterns of behavior and these are things you will often hear me say about the ego:

“The ego is strong tonight.  What about the heart?  Where’s the heart guys?  Who are you making all this effort for?  Not me, I hope.”

We have to expand our awareness, create a longer, bigger and stronger bridge so we can hit pause for a second and observe ourselves. Are my thoughts true?  Am I really feeling hurt that I didn’t get asked to be in the naked Alo Yoga book?  Is this something that I align with and desire, or is this my ego talking?  Am I a shit teacher because I can’t do Scorpion pose?  Who do I think I am for trying to teach yoga and create an online platform? Before we know it, the ego becomes fully in charge as we make ourselves small shrinking into all of our fears and insecurities.  All of this drama is being created by the greatest magician alive, the EGO!

 

Time to wake up to your life and challenge your thoughts, especially the ones driven by FEAR.  The first time I did this, it went a little something like this:

Ego: You can’t sell online classes.  No one will ever buy them.  Who do you think you are?

Me: I know who I am.  I’m Ella and you shut up.  I’ve been working on this all of my life.  I have faith in myself so you shut it down Ego.  

Ego: I don’t know what to say……you’ve never questioned me before.  Fine than.  I will shut up for now but I’m watching you because I know your fear and anxiety will return.

Me: Get out of here Ego.  I won’t allow you to walk around in my head any longer.

 

I see you Ego. I see you and will continue to challenge you, while moving forward, my dear fake friend!  I will no longer let you be the mastermind of my life.  I will not take what you say to be obsolete.  I know the ego will always scream.  The heart will always whisper.  So the question is, have you noticed your ego? What do YOU plan to do about it?

 

Xo Ella

@Ellavateyoga

On my flight back from Norway, I watched Doctor Strange for the third time. Every time I watch this film, something new sticks out for me.

 

Mordo: “I wanted the power to defeat my enemies and you gave me the power to defeat my demons.”
The Ancient One: “We never lose our demons, Mordo. We only learn to live above them.”
(Doctor Strange. Dir. Scott Derrickson. Marvel Studios, 2016. Film.)

 

For those of you who don’t know my story, watch “Not So Namaste” on my site and you will get a glimpse into my upbringing. I have a lot of demons and I would be foolish to think they will simply go away, but I will be damned if I allow them to run my life. As I’ve started my journey with plant medicine, and combine that with my ongoing yoga practice, I feel like I have enough tools to battle them.

 

The biggest tool is awareness. Awareness gives me the ability to pause and reflect instead of going straight to reacting. It gives me the gift to live out of intent more and more, and not simply out of habit. I am able to notice when I’m anxious and in my head, and to choose my breath.

 

This gives me the power to choose, the power to trust my path instead of my fears, the power to choose me.

 

The longer we live, the more we realize life is not simply black and white. We collect a lot of baggage along the way but the power to choose yourself over your demons is always there.

Identify your demons. Get to know them. Give them a good kick in the ass and send them on their merry way.

Choose YOU instead. Over and over, rise up above your demons and choose you. Believe you’re worth it.

 

 

One of the many things students ask in class is “Again? We have to do it again?” My answer is always the same: unless you met your husband/wife/partner on your first date you ever had, than yes, again.

Take a handstand for example. A flawless handstand is a perfect balance of strength and flexibility in the body. A perfect balance of surrender and full concentration of the mind. I remind my students that the mentality of an athlete is all I know, and the only way anyone gets good at something is through repetition. The key is repetition with awareness. Each time you are trying to get better at something, you do so by repeating it. In a handstand it translates into the way you place your hands, the focused gaze, core, shoulders, hamstrings, flexibility, and so on.

In this sense, yoga is life training. Off the mat, how much awareness do you bring into your life? First, you must identify what it is that requires your awareness. Are you looking for a life partner? What red flags have you learned to observe from past experiences? Are you looking to be more positive with your thoughts? How aware are you of the words you use with yourself and others?

Whether you’re looking to become the next Michael Jordan, the next Meryl Streep or Frida Kahlo, I guarantee you that those people got where they did by studying their craft. By repetition with awareness. Better yet, look to become a better version of you!