With Thanksgiving taking place this Thursday, I think we can say that the “holiday season” is starting to get underway. The holidays are portrayed as a magical time full of joy, laughter and family and although this is true for some, it is not the standard for all. It is also a time where people are reminded of loss, triggering unexpected and deep-rooted tough emotions. It is a time where we often fall back into the same patterns of behavior we once had growing up. We play the role we were given in the family dynamic rather than what we have chosen to grow into as adults. This causes us to be in a state of reactivity treating the present moment as our enemy rather than our friend.

But what if this holiday season, we switched our approach? What if we treated this as a time of reflection? An opportunity to notice how much we have indeed progressed on this journey called life and yet, how much more capacity we have to grow. I often find myself in situations asking; what would Mother Theresa and Buddha do? Life is gracious and it will keep giving you opportunity after opportunity to learn your lessons. So let’s move beyond it this year.

Treat the present, as you would a beautiful moment in your life. Accept your life as it is right now and look for what is right. If you’re not able to find anything, please keep searching. You can start by being grateful for your life. For having a roof over your head. For your eyesight. For your voice.

Treat the present, as your friend, not your worst enemy. The other shoe doesn’t always drop. The other shoe could be a sheer figment of your imagination. All I’m saying is watch your attitude. Be honest with yourself. What are you truly creating?

You might even put yourself in an adult “time out” and take a few minutes to inhale up the spine and exhale out of your mouth. Connect to your physical self and shut down the thinking mind. If that still doesn’t work, remind yourself that you’re a bad ass and do a handstand even if you have to use the damn wall! Throw a spontaneous dance party!

If you’re life and family are perfect, great, but for the rest of us, let’s do this. See the good inside of you and others. Be kind. I guarantee you that we are all much more alike than we are different.

xo
Ella
Lately, while walking Anjali and sitting in traffic, I’ve been listening to NPR’s “How I Built This.” The creation and building of my Ellavate Yoga online platform has required courage, tenacity and determination, especially in these early stages. So to keep my anxiety and fears at bay, I’ve been extremely mindful of what I feed my mind.
I recall the observations of Maureen and Tony Wheeler, the founders of Lonely Planet. “Our business grew very slowly,” they emphasized. “It was more like the snowball rolling down a hill. You have to keep pushing it at first— and then it starts developing momentum and starts to get larger as it rolls down the hill. In the late 80’s, early 90’s, it became obvious that this thing had its own momentum and it was carrying us as much as we were pushing it.” At its height, Lonely Planet was valued at a quarter of a billion dollars. Not bad momentum!
So how can we apply this in our lives? If I think about my yoga career in Los Angeles, it definitely has its own momentum. I’ve worked hard to develop myself as teacher, student and a human being for the last seven years. However, my online platform is just beginning. Because it’s new, it often demands al my attention. It reminds me of my furry love Anjali, when she was just a few weeks old. I love her to pieces now, but I was certain she was defected as a puppy. The online platform humbles me and has the ability to bring me to tears of despair or joy— depending on the day. It shows me how attached I am to a certain vision—to a rigid time frame in which to meet my goals. It’s a dream being written and developed right in front of my eyes. It’s an investment in myself. It’s my ultimate test in patience. Right now, as I’m creating the snowball, I’m thinking damn, haven't I climbed enough hills in my life? Is this real life? How long do I have to push this snowball before it has its own momentum? When will life carry me?
When I get done with my pity party, I remember my “why.” My burning passion for this project. My excitement and vision. So I can convince myself to celebrate the little wins and keep going. If you can feed your mind the right things and listen to those who have done similar things in their respective fields, you can learn from their mistakes as well as your own. You do better because you know better.
So what in your life has its own momentum? Can you remember how you got there and be proud of that work? Can you use it as trust and inspiration for the part of your life that requires you to push right now? Of course, that requires you to have discipline, blind faith and tenacity. But aren’t you worth the investment?
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