On the bathroom walls of Forward-Fold where I teach and film my online classes, reads: “Your ego is not your amigo.”
I have no idea what student wrote this on the wall as when the studio opened, the owner Matt, allowed peeps to write whatever they wanted. I often use this phrase in class and life. The ego is an imposter and a real son-of- a-bitch. It will haunt us forever so we better teach it its place and build a better relationship with it.
There’s no winning with the ego. No escaping it. So, start by noticing how much, how often, and in what areas the ego is running your life. I spend most of my time teaching and observing other people’s patterns of behavior and these are things you will often hear me say about the ego: “The ego is strong tonight. What about the heart? Where’s the heart guys? Who are you making all this effort for? Not me, I hope.”
We have to expand our awareness, create a longer, bigger and stronger bridge so we can hit pause for a second and observe ourselves. Are my thoughts true? Am I really feeling hurt that I didn’t get asked to be in the naked Alo Yoga book? Is this something that I align with and desire, or is this my ego talking? Am I a shit teacher because I can’t do Scorpion pose? Who do I think I am for trying to teach yoga and create an online platform? Before we know it, the ego becomes fully in charge as we make ourselves small shrinking into all of our fears and insecurities. All of this drama is being created by the greatest magician alive, the EGO!
Time to wake up to your life and challenge your thoughts, especially the ones driven by FEAR. The first time I did this, it went a little something like this:
Ego: You can’t sell online classes. No one will ever buy them. Who do you think you are?
Me: I know who I am. I’m Ella and you shut up. I’ve been working on this all of my life. I have faith in myself so you shut it down Ego.
Ego: I don’t know what to say……you’ve never questioned me before. Fine than. I will shut up for now but I’m watching you because I know your fear and anxiety will return.
Me: Get out of here Ego. I won’t allow you to walk around in my head any longer. I see you Ego. I see you and will continue to challenge you, while moving forward, my dear fake friend! I will no longer let you be the mastermind of my life. I will not take what you say to be obsolete. I know the ego will always scream. The heart will always whisper.
So the question is, have you noticed your ego?
What do YOU plan to do about it?